Making Friends

Making New Friends


Your Alpha Phi sisters will always be your besties, but they won’t always be within walking distance. The hard truth is, it can be hard to make new friends when you graduate—but with a little extra effort, you’ll find your people. Here are some ways to go about it:

1. Join your alumnae chapter. That’s an easy one, so it makes sense to start there. You’re an Alpha Phi for life, so benefit from the bond and reap the rewards. Even if your alumnae chapter is based some distance away or you don’t know anyone who’s a member, make it a point to attend events and meetings. They’ll be the most welcoming strangers you ever meet.

2. Volunteer. Again, a great place to start is Alpha Phi. Check the volunteer listings online to see if there are any opportunities in your area. Or find a cause you’re interested in and attend an informational session. Maybe it’s an animal rescue organization or a homeless shelter. Either way, you might have to work up the courage to go by yourself, but once you’re there, you’re bound to meet people with similar interests.

3. Get a dog. Dogs attract, so consider whether you have the time and space for a dog, and then use your mutt to meet and mingle at the local dog park. Or just stroll around busier areas and chances are someone will ask to pet your pooch. Don’t want to commit to having your own dog? You could borrow a friend’s or serve as a foster parent for a rescue organization, meaning you’d only have dogs for short periods of time.

4. Check your social media. Are there friends of friends or Alpha Phi sisters in your area that you didn’t even realize were nearby? Introduce yourself and plan a time to meet in person. Or ask a mutual friend to make the introduction.

5. Answer the invites. If an acquaintance or a coworker asks you to join them at a party or a networking event, unless your gut scream “bad idea” for safety reasons, have your “about me” speech ready to go and go for it.

6. Connect with a religious institution. Almost every church and synagogue (and some mosques) have young adult outreach activities, often outside of the religious space itself. Whether you’re seriously religious or not, these are great ways to meet people who already share at least one thing in common with you.

7. Join a social sports group. You don’t need to be a star athlete to play for fun. Many large cities have social sports clubs that generally meet weekly for things like beach volleyball, touch football, soccer and more. Some of the most fun happens after the game is over when teammates gather to socialize.

8. Work out. Turn your exercise into a friend-meeting exercise. Join a running club or register for group exercise classes. Chat up the people who seem like your kind of people and suggest meeting up after class.